41 with Teens and want another baby

Hi. If its in your heart, then Yes.. why not?.. there are so many women out in their late thirties, early forties even having their 'first' child !!

It's not being selfish, everyone has their reasons- and its good to explore your feelings and look for advice from others x

Absolutely not selfish at all.

Unfortunately like some people on this post; some people can't have children pre 40.

I'm 36 now and struggled to get pregnant with a third. We are having ivf but have to wait a while for implantation. I've come to the realisation I will be at least 39 by the time I have a baby and I would like another after

People are living longer and longer these days. As long as you feel healthy enough I'm sure your other children will love a baby to dote on xx

Hi Kim I'm 40 and have 5 children. Oldest is nearly 22 then I have 19, 15, almost 13 and a 14 month old. Although my youngest wasn't planned he has brought us all so much joy. Don't listen to anyone else saying your too old and that it's selfish because the child might not have you around when they get older. We could die anytime and our kids won't have us around. If it's what you want then go for it. It's nobody else's business, you are the 1 who will raise the child. Best of luck with whatever you decide

Thank you for your reassurance, it’s appreciated. Wishing you all the best with your IVF xx

Thank you for your response, it’s something I will need to consider x

Thanks for your response Lindsay, I really appreciate your support. Yes you are right, none of know what’s around the corner.. we can’t hold back because we are unsure what the future holds .. thanks for making me feel like I’m not selfish x

Why don't you foster? I am in a similar boat. My children are 20, 18 and 15 and I now feel redundant. A new baby wouldn't make.me happy though, and it's a massive responsibility and frankly it would be exhausting.

I have looked into fostering even as a single parent. I think that I need to ultimately realise that my children have moved on I've don't my job and now it's a chance for me to enjoy my life for me not for someone else.

Hey Sarah, it’s good to know I’m not alone in feeling like a redundant parent.

We have looked into fostering and think anyone who can foster is an amazing person. My neighbour fosters but I’m not sure this is for us..

It's totally normal. My mum had my younger sister at 40 and we all are so happy to have her in our lives.

I’m 42, I have a 22 year old, 13 year old step son that lives with me and a 7 year old. I want another baby as well.

Please please don’t listen to anyone making comments about your child being young when you die (dreadful thing to say!) we never know when our time is up so being a good parent and raising good individuals is all that matters.

spoken by a 45 year old with a 2 year old and 18 year old 😊

I will say it’s very tiring, the pregnancy was awful. Mothering on no sleep is a lot tougher in your 40’s

do what your heart tells you to do ❤️

I’m thinking about having one in the next year I’m 37 now with a 7 and 3 yo. My husband says we are getting on a bit! Everyone is having them older now though.

my mil had all 4 by 24 and said she wanted them young… but she is now wayyyyyy too old before her time! Like I actually know 90 year olds that do more than her at 64. Children will keep you young!

Not selfish at all! You have the motivation, the desire to be back at that newborn stage and the experience to know what you’re getting yourself in to. Go for it! You will be a terrific third time mum. And don’t ponder in it because then time won’t be on your side. We have a younger sib 20 years younger than the eldest and she’s turned out to be the GOAT because evidently, my parents knew what they were doing with her. 😆