Loneliness and inadequacy
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Last post: 12/05/2022 at 2:46 pm
I have three children two of which are in school and our last is 15 months I was a stay at home mum with the eldest two who had just a two year gap I remember it being hard and lonely I didn't drive and we were in a tiny flat i look back and I wish I took it in my stride because children grow and things change now in a house and having worked for the past three years minus a year of maternity leave I've found myself back to that state my partner now works 9-5 which is great compared to he's 4-11pm but this now means he's not her to go out with during the day because he's the one with the car ...
This is so good for us financially though my aim is to pass my test this year so that I can experience having a car as a stay at home mum and then eventually take my kids to school and pick them up ect I'm aslong as it takes to pass to being able to get out during the day we currently pop out some evenings when dad is home and always weekends im able to drive just need the licence , we live in a village and all I have is the park and dog to walk and a taxi into town as no buses will make learning to drive harder because that's what I need the money for so basically I'm in all day with our baby am I over reacting feeling isolated ?? Like I say I go out some evenings when dad is home and always weekends and I'm looking for an evening cleaning job to give myself some substance I feel like a weirdo like I'm the only person is the world who's home all day with a baby 😅 sorry for being such a long message xx
No your not a werido. When my son was 2, we moved to Sheffield, I was new to the area, like you I couldn't drive. The buses were OK, but money was tight, so it was only a trip once a week in town, to take out my money to get the shopping. Other than that, if was trips to the park. I was so excited, to get my son into nursery, so that I could get some me time. Before moving to Sheffield I got out and about more, as we had a car and my partner worked early. We came to Sheffield so he could go to university. Which meant him been out all day and working most weekends. I did eventually get a job, but that was a year and half after moving, as I had to get one that fitted child care and my partner been away on placement, I was like a single parent. The advantage of yoy guys having a car, will mean yoy learning to drive or pass your test, will not take as long, so long as your partner, doesn't mind, teaching you on your weekends.
No your not a werido. When my son was 2, we moved to Sheffield, I was new to the area, like you I couldn't drive. The buses were OK, but money was tight, so it was only a trip once a week in town, to take out my money to get the shopping. Other than that, if was trips to the park. I was so excited, to get my son into nursery, so that I could get some me time. Before moving to Sheffield I got out and about more, as we had a car and my partner worked early. We came to Sheffield so he could go to university. Which meant him been out all day and working most weekends. I did eventually get a job, but that was a year and half after moving, as I had to get one that fitted child care and my partner been away on placement, I was like a single parent. The advantage of yoy guys having a car, will mean yoy learning to drive or pass your test, will not take as long, so long as your partner, doesn't mind, teaching you on your weekends.
Hi Vicky thankyou for your reply it's good to know I'm not alone I think I end up feeling like I feel sorry for My daughter or that neighbours will know I sit in most days x