17yo will not help around the house!
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Last post: 20/05/2022 at 10:41 am
My 17 Yr old will not help around the hose, take tonight I asked her to swap the washing over for me! She fussed about it and who did it? Me!
She literally has no respect! I don't know where I've gone wrong and what I can do! Please give advise!
She used to moan but then do it, bur recently she refuses, easter weekend she made a cake, I purposely left the items she had used for as long as I could. Even asked her 2/3 times a day to do them. 🙄
Stop doing any tasks for her that she is capable of doing for her self. Like laundry.
She'll quickly learn helping out from time to time is a lot easier than doing it all for herself
Don't wash clothes for her, don't cook for her, don't take her anywhere or give her money until she starts to toe the line
I don't think that children should be told that they meed to help around the house. She is not helping you, she is doing her part as someone who has a priveledge of living im a family. If young people don't want to pull their part...I would show them the door. What does she do with her life? Is she studying/working?
I would set up the geoumd rules and stick to them. Do not wash her laundry or clean her room etc... if she uses the kitchen, needs to clean up afterwards or no access to inrernet and lst her know she'll have to leave after her 18th birthday. Harsh, I know, but she needs to learn.
I don't think that children should be told that they meed to help around the house. She is not helping you, she is doing her part as someone who has a priveledge of living im a family. If young people don't want to pull their part...I would show them the door. What does she do with her life? Is she studying/working?
I would set up the geoumd rules and stick to them. Do not wash her laundry or clean her room etc... if she uses the kitchen, needs to clean up afterwards or no access to inrernet and lst her know she'll have to leave after her 18th birthday. Harsh, I know, but she needs to learn.
Sorry about the typos and good luck! I know it's not easy. Sometimes they need tough love.
She used to moan but then do it, bur recently she refuses, easter weekend she made a cake, I purposely left the items she had used for as long as I could. Even asked her 2/3 times a day to do them. 🙄
Its tough when kids don’t help out . But it’s better to do positive reinforcement than sanctions.That has worked for me .- I have 14 year old now helping out .
Find something to praise, be casual , give them your time even if 5 minutes , it counts. Share one thing about yourself
Find a deal - work out a deal to do one thing together, May be they have some difficulty doing a chore. Gradually work out what they can do on their own . Reward them for that time spend . Rewards can be worked out too. Show your disappointment not dissatisfaction.
hope this helps
Its tough when kids don’t help out . But it’s better to do positive reinforcement than sanctions.That has worked for me .- I have 14 year old now helping out .
Find something to praise, be casual , give them your time even if 5 minutes , it counts. Share one thing about yourself
Find a deal - work out a deal to do one thing together, May be they have some difficulty doing a chore. Gradually work out what they can do on their own . Reward them for that time spend . Rewards can be worked out too. Show your disappointment not dissatisfaction.
hope this helps
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i mean try and find the real cause why they are not doing chores
physical difficulty, laziness, lack of interest. Please don’t jump into conclusions like laziness
Solutions can be worked out and am sure you will be much more happier