14 year old Teenager
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Last post: 18/05/2022 at 7:06 pm
Hi if any one could help that would be appreciated, my 14 year old daughter and I have a really strong bond and relationship, and I've only ever had 1 rule NO SEX TILL YOUR 16 well she called me on Friday and told me that her and her boyfriend (both age 14) had done this and safely as well, the sexual health people have put her on the pill yesterday in school but have not called to speek to me, her dad and I ar separated and in New relationships so both men don't know about this and I have noone to turn to to talk to plz help me am going out my mind my baby is no longer my baby. Thank you 🥰
If her school got her on the pill without contacting you need to find lawyer. School needs sued.
If her school got her on the pill without contacting you need to find lawyer. School needs sued.
Sued? For what? Unless the school has forced this person to take contraception against her will, they've done nothing wrong.
The decision to use contraception will have been up to the young person involved, after discussions and advice with a medical professional. Those professionals will have assessed any risks, and will decide whether the young person is competent to make their own decisions.
A competent person under the age of 16 does not need the consent of their parents to access contraception in the UK. While medical professionals should advise a young person to inform their parents, the decision is up to the young person themselves.
Medical professionals are not allowed to inform parents without the consent of the young person, but must pass on any safeguarding concerns to the relevant authorities.
Sued? For what? Unless the school has forced this person to take contraception against her will, they've done nothing wrong.
The decision to use contraception will have been up to the young person involved, after discussions and advice with a medical professional. Those professionals will have assessed any risks, and will decide whether the young person is competent to make their own decisions.
A competent person under the age of 16 does not need the consent of their parents to access contraception in the UK. While medical professionals should advise a young person to inform their parents, the decision is up to the young person themselves.
Medical professionals are not allowed to inform parents without the consent of the young person, but must pass on any safeguarding concerns to the relevant authorities.
Thank you for your replys
I've done some research and asked around, and basicly came across this below, so in theory my 14 year old has made an adult decision to keep herself safe so am quite proud of her for doing so and the clinic is based in the school, which when we where kids we never had this available to us so in a way everyone is doing the right thing to keep everyone safe 🥰
. You do not need permission from a parent or guardian to get birth control. In fact, it is unethical and illegal for clinic workers or health care providers to tell your parents/guardians you were even at the clinic. The agreement to keep your visit private is called a confidentiality agreement.

Sued? For what? Unless the school has forced this person to take contraception against her will, they've done nothing wrong.
The decision to use contraception will have been up to the young person involved, after discussions and advice with a medical professional. Those professionals will have assessed any risks, and will decide whether the young person is competent to make their own decisions.
A competent person under the age of 16 does not need the consent of their parents to access contraception in the UK. While medical professionals should advise a young person to inform their parents, the decision is up to the young person themselves.
Medical professionals are not allowed to inform parents without the consent of the young person, but must pass on any safeguarding concerns to the relevant authorities.
UK and USA both over step parental boundaries when it comes to sex education in schools. Lawsuits only way to stop that. I know the Democrats in USA and Socialists in UK was government to become parents of all kids.
Thank you for your replys
I've done some research and asked around, and basicly came across this below, so in theory my 14 year old has made an adult decision to keep herself safe so am quite proud of her for doing so and the clinic is based in the school, which when we where kids we never had this available to us so in a way everyone is doing the right thing to keep everyone safe 🥰
. You do not need permission from a parent or guardian to get birth control. In fact, it is unethical and illegal for clinic workers or health care providers to tell your parents/guardians you were even at the clinic. The agreement to keep your visit private is called a confidentiality agreement.

That's probably why USA always bailing UK out during wars cause your government ruins parental child bond. So I guess in UK if she does get pregnant do they take care of the baby too. Cause nothing in 100% affective
Thank you for your replys
I've done some research and asked around, and basicly came across this below, so in theory my 14 year old has made an adult decision to keep herself safe so am quite proud of her for doing so and the clinic is based in the school, which when we where kids we never had this available to us so in a way everyone is doing the right thing to keep everyone safe 🥰
. You do not need permission from a parent or guardian to get birth control. In fact, it is unethical and illegal for clinic workers or health care providers to tell your parents/guardians you were even at the clinic. The agreement to keep your visit private is called a confidentiality agreement.

So in UK 14 is considered adults does the UK let them vote too
UK and USA both over step parental boundaries when it comes to sex education in schools. Lawsuits only way to stop that. I know the Democrats in USA and Socialists in UK was government to become parents of all kids.
And yet the UK has a lower level of teen pregnancy than the US.
In the Netherlands, where sex education is even more open and comprehensive than in the UK, and contraception even easier to access for under 18s, their teen pregnancy rate is less than an eighth of that in the US.
Perhaps leaving it entirely to parents isn't the best way.
That's probably why USA always bailing UK out during wars cause your government ruins parental child bond. So I guess in UK if she does get pregnant do they take care of the baby too. Cause nothing in 100% affective
Well, in the UK the mother and baby are far better looked after than in the US. We have such things as a whole year of paid maternity leave, Child benefits, free healthcare, including free prescription medication for under 18s, help to buy healthy food while pregnant, so in a way, yes, the state does help look after the baby.
Thank you for your replys
I've done some research and asked around, and basicly came across this below, so in theory my 14 year old has made an adult decision to keep herself safe so am quite proud of her for doing so and the clinic is based in the school, which when we where kids we never had this available to us so in a way everyone is doing the right thing to keep everyone safe 🥰
. You do not need permission from a parent or guardian to get birth control. In fact, it is unethical and illegal for clinic workers or health care providers to tell your parents/guardians you were even at the clinic. The agreement to keep your visit private is called a confidentiality agreement.

I'd be proud of her too, if she was mine.
It's said that a parent's job is not to raise a child, but to raise an adult, and if your daughter is mature and confident enough to make her own decisions, it shows you've done some great parenting, so you should be proud of yourself as well.
Worth noting that contaceptive pills might not be effective until up to seven days depending on her cycle. Did they forgot to mention that?
They don’t have to tell you about this but that pill is not effective in her body yet. It’s not instant. If she did not use other forms of protection please take her to get the morning after pill.
I can understand both sides of the fence.
I never wanted any of my parents knowing about my sex life honestly. It was a strictly private matter to me. That is me talking as a Daughter.
As a Parent I would not be happy either. I guess your daughter is still under your roof and your care. If your daughter falls pregnant school will not be here to help. You will be the one she will turn to.
I am puzzled...the pill does not act right away.
Kids can vote, can change sex, can take hormones etc but at the end of the day they are still kids.
Just because they are laws does not make them moral or wise at all.
but I guess people see government as a replacement parent those days.
So in UK 14 is considered adults does the UK let them vote too
Not considered adults, 16 is the age of legal sexual consent and 18 adulthood. Usually voting is at 18 but some elections allow 16 and 17 year olds to vote. The thing about contraception is that if kids had to ask their parents before getting it far more kids who had unprotected sex would end up pregnant. Better to make sure that they can access it safely and easily without embarrassment.
I can understand both sides of the fence.
I never wanted any of my parents knowing about my sex life honestly. It was a strictly private matter to me. That is me talking as a Daughter.
As a Parent I would not be happy either. I guess your daughter is still under your roof and your care. If your daughter falls pregnant school will not be here to help. You will be the one she will turn to.
I am puzzled...the pill does not act right away.
Kids can vote, can change sex, can take hormones etc but at the end of the day they are still kids.
Just because they are laws does not make them moral or wise at all.
but I guess people see government as a replacement parent those days.
I think the thing about contraception is that with or without it some kids will have sex when they're still young, however much they're advised to wait. Better to make sure they're able to access contraception without needing to ask parents, as if they had to ask parents they might still have sex but without protection.