Age difference - Will I be ok having another baby?
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Last post: 03/06/2022 at 11:37 pm
Hi everyone,
I really hope someone out there has some advice for me. I’m currently 27 and have a 7 year old Daughter who turns 8 in a few months, I had her young with an ex partner.
I am now with a new partner and have been for some years, we have bought a house together and for ourselves very settled. He and I spoke about trying to have a baby nearer the end of this year (he said he wouldn’t be ready before September but thinks he will want to try from then) but by then my Daughter will be turning 8 and I’ll be a few months from turning 28.
I am really worrying about the age gap, 8 years seems a lot and I have no clue how I’ll remember how to do the ‘baby part’ and go back to that kind of life! I’ve always wanted another one deep down, so I know it would make me so happy… but I can’t get past the worrying of how it would all work. What if I wasn’t very good now im older? What if my Daughter didn’t like it? Am I too old now to start all that again?
All if my friends are now starting their families, but I’ve had one for 7 years so it all feels really daunting. Does anyone have a big age gap? Or had similar feelings?
Im loosing sleep over this so advice is appreciated!
Thank you xx
Mine was 6 she was with previous when my 2nd child came I found it a big gap not so much at first but after few years yeah she liked playing like mum to baby but did get jealous when baby was first home which didn't expect as she was involved in everything but only for like a week or two then she enjoyed pushing pram etc and had another when the 2nd was 6 months I was pregnant again so two small age gaps. They are nearly 11, 5, nearly 4 now and the days out are trying keep oldest happy and youngest as oldest finds most things babyish and the two little ones just annoy her lol . But was daunting going Bck to baby stage but glad it's out way now and past that terrible toddler age nearly. Always said wanted no kids after 30 . So had them at 27 and 28 . 33 nearly and happy I've got them out way. Get loads of time with oldest on my own too shopping trips swimming etc that's most important doing one on one with oldest x
I've got a 20 year old with one partner and 3 little girls with my current wife, whom are 6, 8 and 10. My wife is 46 and we are discussing having another child. Just relax, it will all come back to you. You'll do just fine as a new mom, and you get the added benefit of having a babysitter in a year or two. My oldest daughter has her own life and won't babysit, but if she was younger, say 15, she probably would.