So confused
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Last post: 06/06/2022 at 8:06 pm
Hi so I've been seeing a guy for a year now as a friends with benefits situation.
We chat everyday and he comes into where I work alot so see him weekly.
When we meet up we don't always have sex sometimes we just watch a movie or have a take away together and fall asleep cuddling.
He made it clear to me that this is all he wants at the moment which I was fine with.
He even said if I wanted to go off with another man it was ok with him as we are not together
So a few weeks back I went on a date but it didn't work out coz I have feelings for the bloke I've been seeing.
I told him I went on a date a few days ok he said he was fine with it and prefer us being honest and it doesn't change anything
We spent the last two nights together and it was great but last night I get messages saying you would be better off with the other guy you obviously like it night take care!!!
So I sent a few messages back saying what's going on and coz I was drunk I was very honest telling him how much I like him.
He hasn't replied and I'm just so confused?
He's sending out lots of mixed signals here so I'm not surprised you are confused,
You can do nothing else. You have told him exactly how you feel and have been completely open with him.
Maybe he didn't realise how much he liked you until you went out with someone else? Now he's confused?
Give him time to think he knows how you feel about him now.
Don't take him back as a friends with benefits relationship again you would be completely wasting your time it's a proper relationship with some kind of commitment or nothing you owe it to yourself to find someone who wants commitment with you and if he doesn't come back then don't keep messaging him it will be time for you to walk away.
Run and keep on running he’s using you until he finds ‘the one’ And it will happen without a second thought to you! go see what the future brings with the new guy :) good luck
This is the problem of friend with benefits situation, somebody always ends up having feelings and getting hurt. So he has been honest with you from the start, you have developed feelings and revealed them to him and he's given you the cold shoulder. Your only option is to part ways and move on, unless you want to get more hurt?
This is what you do honey....
Run to the hills with the flakey guy that is messing you around. Do not contact him and find yourself a decent chap.
Repeat Do not contact him. Men do not like ladies that are easy, they like a chase.
I would never do a friends with benefits thing, I have far to much self worth for that.
So get out there, dating sites and find a man that actually wants a girlfriend.
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