Self esteem and confidence gone
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Last post: 06/06/2022 at 8:18 pm
today is my birthday and no one has cared I’ve been with my partner 3 years we have a baby and today I woke up to a card that was all . We both have kids from previous relationships he spoilt his ex and I know this cause I found receipts in his email for expensive jewellery and perfume at the date of her birthday he even bought her a car he says I always compare and it’s the past he loves me it was just material things etc I don’t expect anything but knowing he wanted to and did that for someone’s else and all he thought of me was to get a card I feel like crap been teary all morning . Even my own kids who are older didn’t get me a card and my mum who ran about 2 weekly ago to get my sisters new boyfriend presents for his birthday even bought him some from me to make his day nice she said is saying she will get me something in a few weeks I honestly don’t care about presents it’s just the thought they all gave other people and when it came to me they didn’t care What must they all see me as I feel worthless when it’s their birthday I spent what I have on them and leave myself without at times to make there day nice . I just want to be myself today as I’m so upset .
You need to have a talk with your husband and tell him how annoyed and upset you are. Sometimes some people including family can take us for granted and I have felt this at times too.
Now I just behave and treat them as how they treat me. I am not going the extra mile if people are not showing me the same respect.
So if for example my brother only bought me a card and it was late then he will just get a card. This has happened to me quite a few times and over time I got sick of it. If its just a one off then let it go, but still let ur husband know how u feel.
If it's happening most years then treat them the same way and maybe then they will understand how it feels.
Just want to wish you a very Happy Birthday. Cheer your self up and treat yourself.
Xxxxx