New relationship, help please.
2 answers /
Last post: 04/06/2022 at 6:39 pm
I'm looking for some advice, I have been seeing someone that is 20 years older then myself, we get on very well. However it's a long distance relationship. I have 2 children, ages 10 & 12. They both have different dads, they both see there dads once a week, my daughters dad was with me for 11 years, he was with my before my son was born so has been step dad for many years, my son is autistic also so that means, now I'm in a new relationship, I have stopped my ex coming into the house to try keep peace with my new partner, however I don't see any problem in letting my ex partner into the house to see both children, this how it has been for many years, we have always got along for the children. my new partner says he trusts me but I feel like it isn't 100% there, he has been previously been cheated on via an ex partner. I would be to worried to let my son go out alone with my daughters dad just because of his needs and he struggles to manage him. Any advice would be great.
You don't not have to stop your ex partner coming in the house. The fact your new partner has trust issues is for him to handle not for you to accommodate. If your child has needs which mean it's best for their dad to visit them inside the house then that has to come first. Any rational partner would accept this.
Honestly, throw this one back where he came from. He's negatively impacting your children and for me that would put an end to the relationship.