Panicking about returning to work
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Last post: 15/05/2022 at 8:51 pm
Hi everyone. I’m new here but have been lurking on netmums for some time!
I have a 10 month old son and I’m currently pregnant, daughter due same month my son turns 1! I’ve been on back to back maternity leave.
I haven’t even had my daughter yet and I’m already panicking about what we’re going to do when it’s time for me to return to work. My wages will not cover the cost of childcare for two children, and we have no one else who can watch them. So if I go back I’ll be working to pay for someone else to look after children and actually be worse off for it! I also hate my job and hate my employer, and the thought of being away from my babies breaks my heart.
I don’t want us to struggle financially. I want to be able to give our children everything they need. I guess I want to have my cake and eat it too! I want what isn’t realistic and it makes me upset. We’re not eligible for any benefits if I don’t go back to work.
Does anyone have a solution that worked for them? A way of earning money but also being able to spend time with their children? Or am I asking the world (which is my fear as I so badly want it to be my reality)
I don’t have the right answer but I’m going through the exact same thing in regards to working, I have just come off maternity leave went back to work March my son is 16 months and daughter who is 5.. I only work two days but it’s not really worth me going in I spend all my wages on nursery fees my travel into work and parking etc.. I never checked my maternity policy as it shows in small print from returning I cannot leave within 6 months if I do I will need to pay the money back I would double check with your work your policy incase your not looking to return after ur maternity leave is finished..
I have no help with kids as in someone can collect from school or look after my son so I can work.. I’m currently having to ask my husband for money each month because my wages isn’t enough, at one point I thought of full time work but it’s just not possible and the cost of childcare for full time is ridiculous.. I’m not entitled to any benefits cos of my husbands income etc.. some months I just literally have no money.. I will do whatever I can for kids but for myself I have nothing.. so normal things to other ppl I have to double think do I actually need it etc etc i had a good job before my first child but not in a crappy way soon after I had to return to work with her I was in the same situation again no help or someone to have her while I worked etc I literally honestly pray and hope things get better because it’s actually depressing.. my husband keeps saying get a job where u can work from home but who’s gnna look after my son he will still need to go nursery I cannot work at home with him etc etc..