How you know you've found 'the one'
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How you know you've found 'the one'
1. You can be yourself
Which means happily walking round the house in your ancient maternity knickers – safe in the knowledge your partner isn’t judging you.
Especially given they change into their old PJ bottoms the moment they get in from work.
Yep, they're definitely The One.
2. You have different opinions … but that’s okay
It might be you have different ideas about where to go on holiday or what you think of the latest Line of Duty plot line.
But that doesn’t matter because on the things that really count – like how to raise your kids – you're mostly in agreement.
3. You don't mind letting go of the little things
So they always leave their dirty socks and pants on the bedroom floor and never do the food shop.
But you’re fine with letting it go because of all the things they do do.
Including changing poonamis and making sure you lie-in at the weekend.
4. You have shared interests
And not just your kids.
Instead, when you’re both knackered from a day of toddler tantrums or soft play, you both want to do EXACTLY the same thing.
(In other words, sit on the sofa with a box set and takeaway.)
5. You can argue in a productive way
Which might sound impossible.
Especially in the middle of the night when you’re rowing over whose turn it is to get up with your sleep-dodging child.
But if you can argue in a fair way – without getting too personal or talking down to each other – you’re on to a relationship winner.
6. You feel like you’re better together
You’ve both still got your own identities. But you feel happier when you’re with your partner.
Aaah, must be true love.
Not only that, you and your partner are a united team in front of your kids, and have perfected the 'good cop, bad cop' routine. #ParentingWin
7. You want the same things in your future
At the moment, that might be nothing more than ‘a good night’s sleep’.
But if you have common goals for the future – from where you want to live to how many kids you’d like – your relationship is built to last.
8. They've still got IT
Okay so your sex drive might be pretty low at the moment.
But you still find your OH attractive and you can’t wait to get your bedroom mojo back.
We’ve got loads of tips on how to give your sex life a boost after having kids.
9. You make time for each other
And that can be anything from going on date nights to hiring a babysitter so you can go to the supermarket together (yes, that is A Thing!)
Even though your relationship has changed since having kids, you still love spending time together – just the two of you.
10 You have the same attitude to your finances
Raising a family is expensive. And if one of you is strict on budgeting while the other wants to splash the cash, it can lead to rows.
By having the same attitude towards money it means you’re definitely in the right relationship.
And when you do save up for a family holiday or day trip, it makes it even more special.
11. You don’t want them to change
They might have a dodgy dress sense, be ridiculously obsessed with their Fantasy Football team or think they tell the funniest jokes EVER. (They don't.)
But whatever their little flaws, they're your other half and you love them completely.
Although you are seriously considering chucking out their favourite Hawaiian shirt before you go on holiday ...
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