Taking 16 year old daughters boyfriend on holiday
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Last post: 13/05/2022 at 2:47 pm
We are going on a 5 night caravan holiday in August. There will be me, my husband, 16 year old daughter and 13 year old son. My daughter has asked if her boyfriend can come with us. He's also 16. They will have been together for a year and we get on with him. They would be sharing the twin bedroom. I've spoken to her and said we wouldn't want anything going on and she says they wouldn't. I believe her and I don't think she would. They have been alone in each others houses before but haven't spent a night together. I'm OK with him coming but my husband isn't so sure. What do people think. Is it appropriate for us to take her boyfriend with us. Thanks for reading
Personally, I can't see why you wouldn't take the boyfriend along.
If they are "getting up to" anything, they're unlikely to be doing it too much in a caravan room with very thin walls anyway, if only due to the embarrassment factor!
It's difficult to think of our kids growing up, but its something that we have to accept. This could be a great chance for the boyfriend to prove himself to your husband as trustworthy and sensible (and it might be worth a quiet word to your DD and Boyf to that effect!).
It will also help your daughter feel that you trust her and are prepared to treat her as an adult,
You could also use their presence as a couple to get a bit of time off so you and your husband can have a night without the kids hanging round. It's also a great opportunity for your husband to get some time alone with the boyfriend, you with your daughter, and so on and so forth.
Enjoy your holiday!
Personally, I can't see why you wouldn't take the boyfriend along.
If they are "getting up to" anything, they're unlikely to be doing it too much in a caravan room with very thin walls anyway, if only due to the embarrassment factor!
It's difficult to think of our kids growing up, but its something that we have to accept. This could be a great chance for the boyfriend to prove himself to your husband as trustworthy and sensible (and it might be worth a quiet word to your DD and Boyf to that effect!).
It will also help your daughter feel that you trust her and are prepared to treat her as an adult,
You could also use their presence as a couple to get a bit of time off so you and your husband can have a night without the kids hanging round. It's also a great opportunity for your husband to get some time alone with the boyfriend, you with your daughter, and so on and so forth.
Enjoy your holiday!
Thank you these are my thoughts exactly. My daughters boyfriend gets along with my 13 year old son so I've thought they can go off and have a game of pool or something while we have a drink or a walk by the sea. I believe we will actually see more of our daughter if her boyfriend is with us as if he's not with us, her head will be constantly in her phone anyway
Yeah sure they been together that long and obviously having sex at this age they will probably keep it quiet or go off alone or wait till they back home but being young they won't be together forever possibly but nice for her bring him along as will make her happy and if he stays at yours alot then why not xx
I agree with your husband not feeling its right to take her boyfriend on vacation too. Trusting own daughter is one thing but placing them in situation where something could happen is tough to swallow for most dads. I thing for son too might feel weird